For the most part, I'm a pretty shy person. I can be socially awkward, not quite sure of what to say, and usually avoid conversations at work other than a sweet smile and a quick, "Hey, how are ya?"
I think for this reason, I'm an easy target. People like to mess with me - they always have. When a group of friends or co-workers start throwing out their best comebacks and one-liners, I usually listen and laugh, but if someone starts to give me a hard time, I usually struggle to find the right words to shoot back with. I'm like Brick from Anchorman when he says, "Where'd you get your clothes... from the... toilet store?"
Am I alone in this smack-talk insecurity?
I seem to recall a fight I had with a girl in my high school cafeteria when I was just a freshman. She was upset her ex-boyfriend was now dating me, and went off with all sorts of catty language, like she studied it or something. I got red-faced and shaky, and even though I wanted to sound like a smooth talking bad-ass, all I could respond at the top of my lungs was, "WELL, YOU'RE A B****!"
Just last weekend at the bar, some creep was coming up with every sexual joke he could to make me and my friends uncomfortable. One of the girls was busting his balls like a champ for the whole crowd to hear, and it was awesome. He obviously thrived off of it, and then asked her, "Which one of your friends should I mess with next?" I immediately looked around the room avoiding eye contact thinking, "Dear God, please not me."
I like to think I'm charming most of the time, but every once in a while I need a little sass in my step. I know it sounds silly, but just when I add some leopard to my outfit I instantly feel more powerful, confident, and sure of myself. I mean, who messes with a girl wearing animal print, right?
Top, Jeans >> Forever 21 | Scarf >> Payless | Boots >> Target
I do envy those women who are quick-witted and ready to pounce at any moment. Even though I probably won't be getting into cat fights or busting balls any time soon, it helps to just look the part and feel bold in an outfit, even though I'm more sweet by nature.
Sometimes sassy humor is tough, especially when you don't know the person with whom you're trying to use it! I really hate when someone says something and I can't think of a response until later. It always bugs me when I figure out the response I SHOULD have given but after it's too late!
ReplyDeleteDon't worry about the sassiness. Everyone deals with things in their own way, so no one expects you to come up with something witty all the time.
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Hmmm, I'm a mix of both depending on the circumstances. Sometimes I play the shy sweet girl and sometimes I'm the ball buster.
ReplyDeleteBut, when I get surprised or flustered, EEEK I get red and lose all train of sassy thought.
LOVE the leopard. I never wore leopard before but a secret santa gave me an infinity leopard scarf and i love it!
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I can be very sweet, but I have more fun with my sassy side. It comes out more at work & school then it does when I'm home with my parents and sibs though!
ReplyDeleteI LOVE that scarf (and I love that it's from Payless and not J.Crew - I think I need to make a trip over there, that's much more within my budget!)
ReplyDeleteEven with sass, whenever I'm put into a situation like that my face turns beet red. Doesn't matter if I'm not intimidated or nervous, by face still turns bright red. Talk about a confidence killer. I need to find a print-trick that works for me!
You are not a lone in this! Honestly, I feel the same way most of the time. I get super awkward and never know what to say until it just suddenly comes to me hours later. Isn't it crazy how the right fashion statement can make you feel instantly more confident? You rock that scarf! I love it! :)
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I'm extremely shy and I usually ignore this type of things. That is why people sometimes call me a B, because they think I'm mean ignoring this things when in reality I'm shy and sometimes don't know what to do. :S
ReplyDeleteDefinitely sweet, too sweet!
ReplyDeleteUnless it's my mom or sister, I can never come up with a good comeback! Luckily I'm not in the position that often where a comeback is needed. I could definitely use a little more sass though!
ReplyDeleteYou are not alone.. I'm the same way girl! But I think of it in a good way.. There's not many people in the world like us.. We tolerate others easy and I believe we'll be blessed for that !
ReplyDeleteI definitely fall on the sassy side but it depends on who I'm going back and forth with. My cousin, now she's a pro!
ReplyDeleteDefinitely more sweet, I can never come up with a good comeback! Also can I tell you how AMAZING your bangs are?! Share the wealth girl, how do you get them so nice looking?! :)
ReplyDeleteI am definitely more sweet and shy. When I come up with my (very rare) sassy comeback everyone who knows me let's out this huge "OOOOOHHHH" because they know it doesn't happen that often. haha!
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I always come up with the perfect comeback 2 hours after the fact. It would just be perfect if I could convince people that a 2 hour recess is needed between the time of the first jab and my rebuttal.
ReplyDeleteI'm in love with that scarf!! And I think what my friends and I have come down to is that I'm sassy on the outside but at the core of me, I'm actually really sweet. Or at least that's what I've been told...
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Ugh, I hear ya. I one of those who always thinks up all the good things I could have said AFTER the situation is over and done but like you, the sass is no where to be found when the time calls for it!
ReplyDeleteI love the leopard scarf, I vote sassy!
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Kelly
Sparkles and Shoes
I think I'm secretly sassy, but my friends and family may say I'm just sassy! I'm 5', so I have to make up for my short stature, right?! xx
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ReplyDeleteDefinitely sassy. In fact, the night my husband and I met we enjoyed about an hour of back and forth banter when I was supposed to be working... at which point he "told me out" in the smoothest way I've ever heard and I couldn't resist the opportunity to spend more time enjoying the wit.
ReplyDeleteI don't think you should always envy us sassy, witty girls, sometimes the wit comes out before the filter does. We end up with foot in mouth syndrome often. ;)
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Awesome post! And I love your blog:)
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I'm more sassy, but some people don't handle it well--they get mad or take what I'm saying too seriously! I love your outfit, btw. Wearing a little cheetah print makes me feel so much sassier!
ReplyDeleteCUTEST OUTFIT EVER!!! Your hair is gorgeous. Oh and I have to say I'm more sassy; )
ReplyDeleteHa, I love giving guys sass when they're being a wang. Yes, I said wang. I can be quick witted when I need to be! Love that outfit AND you :)
ReplyDeleteI would like to think I am a combination of both. Sometimes I have hard time coming up with comebacks but then other times I'm really quick. It really depends on the situation. Situations at the bar can be rough because if you are too intoxicated it may seem awesome in your head but not so much in reality.
ReplyDeleteKristen! From what you've described, I think we're the exact same person! I guess I always figured you were extremely confident and outgoing from all your glamour shots on here ;) I've got quite the sass to me too.
ReplyDeleteNot only do I ADORE your outfit, you are gorgeous. ;) On to my next point, hang out with me and i'll give you some pointers. I used to be the same way until I met my hubs who is so quick with comebacks that if I didn't learn fast, I was never going to win.. so what did I do. I learn to sass and bust balls! hehe. xoxoxo
ReplyDeleteOh, I remember those days. I guess now that i'm a little older I don't get caught in these situations but I was definitely that person. Luckily my best friend is VERY quick witted in situations like that and all I had to do was look at her to respond...lol..
ReplyDeletejust discovered your blog through the pleated poppy and would love to follow each other! xo
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I am the WORST at coming up with a comeback after the fact. I can usually come up with some good material eventually, I'm just not quick on my feet. There's a whole episode of Seinfeld where George only thinks of comebacks after he's left the building. That's me!
ReplyDeleteI only just found your blog, and reading this post of yours I just have to say I am amazed by you!
ReplyDeleteI also are horrible at comebacks, in high school a friend of mine would always jest with me, not in a mean way, but still.. and I just never could come up with a clever thing to say back at her! It all became lame, but we laughed anyway. Now...it's much harder.. But I wonder if it can be taught, like a lot of other things in life can be.. if one aims for it?