There has been a pretty bad inversion happening in Northern Utah for a couple weeks now... like a cloud of smog sitting on top of the valley, blocking views of our beautiful mountains. It's horrible to breathe, dangerous for some, and the only way it can be wiped out is by a storm passing through.
It reminds me of when my mind gets clouded with negative thoughts. It accumulates when I compare myself with others - "My blog isn't as interesting," "They have a better body than I do,
The only way for me to push it out is by getting positive and proactive - reviewing my assets, my talents, what I'm good at, how far I've come, and how close I am to achieving my goals. That's when I stop feeling bad about myself and start working hard.
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I think it's fair to say that we all compare ourselves, especially in blog world. It can bring us down and can make people stop blogging all together - I mean, why even try if someone else out there is doing it 10x better, right? What's the point?
The point is, my dears... we may have similar talents and interests, but we each have something unique to offer and a perspective to share that is all our own. That's what makes the blogging community so amazing, our work environments interesting, and our friendships developing.
My advice if your mind starts to get filled with fog?
Stop reading other people's blogs for a while, and for God's sake get off Pinterest. Just stop worrying about other people in general. Focus on yourself, your unique voice, and your quirks. Forget about being perfect. Forget about trying to be like someone else. Forget about the numbers. Forget about what other people want to read - what do you want to write?
I guarantee the fog will begin to clear, and soon you will find ideas and creativity lingering in every corner. But, no matter what - as long as you're being honest, original, and 100% yourself - you're doing it right.
Beautiful post friend! You are wonderfully talented and absolutely gorgeous, don't let that mind fog take that away from you! xoxo
ReplyDeleteAw, love you! It's so easy to compare, I never do anymore. I know I can't keep up, so I just do me at my pace and that's ok. It took a while to figure that out though. AND for the love, thanks for explaining inversion! So many Utah bloggers mentioning and I'm like, wth is it?? Hoping for a storm for you! xo
ReplyDeleteLove this (and those earrings!!) but I needed this.
ReplyDeleteThanks girl.
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Lovely post my dear. But nobody is better than anybody. I think your blog is awesome. I think your designs are beautiful and I think you are soooo pretty. And your life seems pretty amazing as well.
ReplyDeleteScrew the rest.
And plus... those blogs that are super popular?? Are constantly bashed on GOMI. Keep being you.
You are gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteWhoa. Beautiful lighting! Great picture. Great style.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great great post. I 100% agree. Sometimes my mind gets so 'foggy' when I see so few comments or pageviews.
ReplyDeleteBut, then I remember, I started this blog to capture MY LIFE! That's it. Being able to see where I've been is the most important thing to me.
And I 100% agree about pinterest, envying and coveting at it's best!
Have a great day! xoxo
You are so right. I made a resolution to be more blunt and honest about what I want to say on my blog, but opening my reader and going through other blogs and comparing myself to their style, content, attitude, and abilities can make it challenging to just get the words out and not critique every single one.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, those pictures are beautiful and I love how you compared the inversion (even though it totally sucks!) to blogging and the negative thoughts that come with it. I hope you get a storm out there soon to wipe it all out!
Love you and this post so much, lady!!
ReplyDeleteHappens to me quite often. Usually I end up comparing myself to other bloggers or to other moms! That's the worst for me, other moms. "how does she look so freakin' put together?!" as i'm standing there in like 2 day old clothes and 3 day hair (not in the cute way) with crumbled up cookie mush all over me. (okay, it's rarely that bad but you get my point) ha.
One day at a time! And just remember you're you! And you don't see what goes on behind closed doors! You only see what they show you
Lovely post! I think bloggers do tend to compare themselves...since most of the time all we see is their blog right in front of us and all other social media platforms. And it can be so easy to be caught up in numbers.
ReplyDeleteWhat I have realized is, like you said, we are all different and have something fresh to offer. We all have a creative spirit and everyone has a creative best. We just have to fight to find out what it is!
Thanks for writing this!
xo, gina
LOVE the foggy pics and fog in general!
ReplyDeleteI've been in a mind fog lately too. I just moved and I still feel a little lost. For me a mind fog is triggered when I'm alone too much. I can't stop thinking and everything sort of melts together into a fog.
ReplyDeleteI usually try to do something to turn my mind off for a little while- read, watch tv, do a craft. It is a little re-charge.
Thanks for sharing this!
thank you for this! definitely something i need to keep in mind :)
ReplyDeleteThe lighting in these pictures is just GORGEOUS and so are you! Also loving the simplicity of your outfit-- it's right up my alley! <3
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-Sam - http://thenewoutfitproject.com/
Hi,
ReplyDeleteVisiting from WIWW - Love the look, specially the oxblood jeans.
-Sam - http://thenewoutfitproject.com/
I found this to be very inspirational. I've tried blogging a few times in the past and I've always given up for these reasons. It's very encouraging to know I'm not the only one who feels this way!
ReplyDeleteAh! Very, very well said. I'm glad this is one of the first things I read today :)
ReplyDeletexo,
janmloves.blogspot.com
This is so perfect!! It is so easy to compare yourself to others, and get lost in that fog! It is so important to just think about yourself every once and a while! And girl PSH! You oooozzzeeee talent from every pore! ahaha that's gross, but true! ;)
ReplyDeleteThis is great advice and I hope you know how many people love your blog. My bestie, JessieKay, showed me your blog and I have been hooked ever since. Oh and I love the outfits you put together :)
ReplyDeleteYour hair is SO gorgeous, girly xo
ReplyDeletesuch great advice, girl especially getting off pinterest. need to do that asap.
ReplyDeleteand sorry for all the smog your way. I live in LA so I'm pretty use to it now :(
love this post. I'm still fairly new to blogging so I haven't felt this way but I can imagine how someone can get consumed in it. Love your outfit! and at least the fog is great for pictures :)
ReplyDeleteMy first thought was that you look GORGEOUS in these pictures. My second was "I love when she does posts like this!".
ReplyDeleteI agree with this 100%. We can all get too wrapped up into comparing ourselves. Of course other bloggers will be more successful. If we stop and think we are more successful than some others as well. It's all about growing. And if that means takign a break from everything, so be it. When I get fuzzy I stop reading or I just focus on me.
holy moly! i wrote a post exactly on this topic yesterday. i was going to finish editing and put it out next week. it's crazy how alike we are. i totally get you... and you're beautiful! love you, kv!
ReplyDeleteThis is exactly what I needed to hear. I have been having a lot of anxiety about my bog lately and the numbers and people not really reading. But this is really what I needed to hear. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI think your blog is amazing!! I love love your blog and I love reading it and I get inspired from it daily.
Love,
Allison
http://allisonbc.blogspot.com/
that was a great post!very inspiring!I got through blog foggy mind all the time so this helped me a lot!
ReplyDeleteyou have an awesome blog, your designs are really cute!you have an amazing voluminous hair and you are beautiful in and out! don't forget that =)
Bea =)
dailylivingingeneva.blogspot.com
Great advice! The last time I felt uninspired to blog, I really think it was because of Pinterest. I was finding all these wonderful blogs and thought mine paled in comparison, so I simply had no urge to blog. Then the holidays hit and I was barely reading any blogs. And wouldn't you know I started to gain some inspiration back!
ReplyDeleteThere is something about the blogosphere that makes me feel like I'm back in high school. The same doubts and insecurities bubble up to the surface. I remind myself every day not lose my soul over something that was meant to be fun. On my death bed I won't be wishing I had more GFC followers. Lovely post...I think we all need that reminder from time to time.
ReplyDeleteyou are so cute! And amen to clearing the fog. I always feel inadequate on pinterest! I try not to go there very often!!!
ReplyDeleteHave a good week!
I agree. It can be so hard to look at other (more popular) blogs and wonder how you can ever be as good. I do this on Pinterest as well and with magazines. I always end of taking a break and reevaluating what I have and what makes me special. I try to think about the small amount of followers I have and how they like what I have to say and it makes me happy. If I have what I have right now it will be enough, anything more is just icing on the cake. And...you are wonderful! You are so insightful and fun and I really enjoy reading about you and your life. And I want your hair:)
ReplyDeleteI just love how you take the reality of the weather and compare it to fog of mind...you have a real talent for writing my sweet daughter!!! These are the ones I love the best. And you look beautiful honey! I always have told you I love your hair long...a beautiful expression with words and pics...you amaze me!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right about that. It is so easy to be sucked into that mind fog of comparing in blog world and getting down on yourself. I honestly can't post accourding to others. When I find myself being caught up in link ups it makes my blogging completely scattered because it knocks my focus off. This was a beautiful post. I really feel like there is always someone out there that is on the same level and there is something out there for everyone. http://onecreativeprocrastinatinggal.blogspot.com/
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, the worst thing to do is compare yourself to others, especially in the blogging word. It's important to focus on the positive because you can never be any different than you are.
ReplyDeleteSo true! I couldn't agree with you more! What a lovely & inspiring post.
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Amen. Such true words and great advice :) Your photos are just beautiful too! Hope you're having a great week!
ReplyDeleteThanks for this post! I agree.
ReplyDeleteMy mind fog usually comes when I start over-thinking and obsessing on whatever is going wrong in my life… bad finances, an obnoxious professor, family drama, etc. What gets me out of it generally is focusing outwardly - looking at art, walking around nature, reading other people's blogs, going to the movies, etc.
ReplyDeleteGood point. The downside of blogs and Pinterest is that it can sometimes make us compare our lives to those of others.
ReplyDeleteLove your hair style and color in this pic. New to your blog.
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